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‘Hijab’ In The Light of Qur’an

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful” [al-Noor 24:31]

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Ahzaab 33:59]
So in one of my previous blog post, Hijab – A Responsibility I tried to give you an explanation as to why it is important to behave according to the rulings of Islam. Now in this blog post, I wish to take you a step further by telling you what exactly are the Quranic rulings for a hijabi. Just to let you know beforehand, I am no scholar but as far as whatever I have heard in the lectures by authentic preachers of Islam, the Hadith and the explanation of certain verses of Quran, I will use them in this blog post so as to provide a better picture of what I really want to explain.

Ever heard of, ‘Hijab is a way of life’? I am sure you must have and hijab truly is a way life and not just a simple piece of cloth worn over your head. According to Quran, hijab is a veil, a veil that is suppose to protect the Muslim women from all sorts of evil. It is a veil that is not just a veil of hiding the hair and the neck  but…

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A Veil That Hides The Shape Of The Body

Yes, a hijabi is suppose to wear loose clothing and not wear tight fitted clothes consisting of tights, short shirts, body fitted dresses and skinny jeans. This is seriously an insult to the whole meaning of hijab and must be refrained from doing so. This is because simply wearing a headscarf (also known as ‘Khimar’) does not puts a veil over your beauty, and you know it better that wearing body fitted clothes also becomes a source of attraction for the opposite gender.

A Veil That Protects You From Evilness Of The Opposite Gender

It is an utterly distressful sight to see hijabi girls flirting around with boys, sitting right next to them, touching them. Flirting will only take you towards the wrong path of Haram relationships and sitting next to men or touching them are the same things because both of it can induce sexual feelings in men and you as well. And the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045).

So then how can one think it to be right and doing so in a hijab which represents the rest of the Muslim women, you are only bringing a bad name to them by going against the rulings of Islam.

A Veil That Does Not Portrays Your Beauty

Not portrays your beauty so much that it can make the opposite gender look at you with lust. I have seen many hijabis uploading their pictures on social networks like some model, with fitted dressing, lots of make-up and vibrant color scarves. And below their pictures men are shamelessly commenting about their beauty, using words such as ‘hot’, ‘sexy’ etc and the owner of these pictures are wonderfully enjoying reading it. It’s so sad that just to get a few approvals from the opposite gender these girls are ready to lose their value in the sight of Allah.

All in all, the meaning of hijab is more than a headscarf or even what it is described here. If you are really concern about the right way of doing hijab then I’d suggest you to listen to lectures and read books by authentic Islamic preachers. For a better understanding of hijab do read this article I found on some blog.

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From the heart

We Are Sorry…

We are sorry, for all the worry you had faced. For all the pain, you had gained. You see we Muslims are doing our best to explain the ignorant who we are. To show them what our religion truly is. To show them that these terrorists don’t at all represent us, in fact they are not even Muslims. They are just some bunch of retards killing people in the name of our Almighty. We are sorry that no matter how hard we try there are people who simply don’t want to hear us. They have shunned our messages like as if they have lost their ability to understand us. We are sorry, that because of a few bad apples we all have been stereotyped as someone who we don’t really are. We are sorry for all the efforts we are putting in which still seems to be having no effect on many people. Or let me ‘try’ to be positive by saying a few people who unfortunately are very violent. So violent, that a usual dispute led to you three lovely people getting killed.

I do not know who you guys really were apart from the fact that you were three innocent students who were surely going to bring a positive change in our society if you had been alive today. But we are sorry that we lost you for something so silly that could have been resolved with a simple communication. We are sorry for not being able to win people’s respect. We are sorry for the grief of your family and for the grief of the whole Muslim Ummah. But we know that you guys are now in a very beautiful place and maybe Allah wanted you with Him more than with us. These hearts will be healed just like any other wound but your thoughts will remain afresh in our minds. We will remember you three like the rest of the martyrs around the world, pray for you like how we have been praying for the rest of the innocent lives lost, and will optimistically wait to meet you and to see your family reunite together in Jannah.

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Hijab – A Responsibility

Basically in today’s world the meaning of Hijab is limited to a cloth on the head while the rest of the body can cover and act as it likes. And the most unfortunate fact about this situation is that if you try to explain it to someone all you will get to hear is, ‘who are you to judge’ or ‘it’s all about intentions’.  Well, yes, we are no one to judge nor could anyone see your true intentions but Allah, but then as a Muslim aren’t we suppose to help another fellow Muslim towards the right path of Jannah? If one can’t advice on something right then how are we even suppose to succeed in our duty of Daw’ah and mind it, Daw’ah is not just for the non-believers but also for the Muslims so that we keep improving towards our Deen.

Recently, reading a status from a hijabi YouTuber that she doesn’t represents all hijabis so no one should go and pick on her about what is right and what is not right as a hijabi. I understand that the people’s comments were quite rude to her and that was really not the way to advice or correct a fellow human and for whom I would really recommend my article – The Art of Giving Advice, but one thing hijabi YouTubers fail to understand that maybe they as a human being (who tend to make mistakes) may not be representing Islam but that piece of cloth on their head known as the “hijab” by majority these days, does represents her to be a part of Muslim community.

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Back in my school days I still remember many of our teachers used to tell us that it is none of their duty what we do outside school until or unless we are still in our school uniform. When we are in our school uniform we are giving a signal to other people around us that we belong to a certain school. So if we are caught doing something mischievous then end of the day it is going to give a bad reputation to school as well as to its students. And this is a rule for every field, office, company. For instance, an army officer or a police officer will face more penalties if they commit something wrong in their uniform, so we can say that this is a norm the whole world follows, and so does our Deen. So when you are wearing a hijab on your head there are a certain number of rules that you should be following. End of the day this hijab is an identity, a uniform for a Muslimah and if we commit any haram act while wearing the hijab, then  we will bring a bad name to other hijabis and disobey Allah. So in short this hijab is a responsibility and one has to carry it out with utmost care.

In fact, this idea of uniform also applies to Muslim men who have got beards. How many times have you found yourself trusting a bearded man more than a man without beard? I am sure the certainty is quite high here and this is purely because the beard is an identity of a pious Muslim man, it is a sign that he is following the Sunnah and hence he has to be a nice guy. It is not about being judgmental but it is a about human perceptions which I can assure you is quite natural.

We human beings naturally form a schema, an outline. It is an easy way for our brain to identify people by grouping them and so when one person belonging to a certain religion or community does wrong, we tend to consider the rest of the people like him or her and even if we don’t judge them extremely, we still tend to avoid taking risks by trusting a person belonging to that same religion or community.

Read continuation: true meaning of hijab as described in the Quran

Till then Jazak Allah for your precious time and looking forward to hearing from you so don’t forget to write to me on at aisha2aboo@gmail.com.

From the heart

A New Semester

Since very early years of my life I have been used to a lot travelling. An Umrah trip to Saudia Arabia by road every year with my family and travelling to Karachi from UAE and back thrice a year. Plus, my life in UAE always consisted of long drives to different cities; Abu Dhabi, Fujairah, Umm Al Quain, Ras Al Khaimah, and picnics to the parks, beaches and corniche, and hanging out with family in the mall during weekends. My trips to Karachi during vacations again involved a lot of activities like shopping, parties, weddings, and family picnics to Hawks Bay and water parks. So all in all, I never got to sit at home for too long.

Now when I have finally moved to Karachi for good (been like five years now), apart from the days I have university and get to socialize and move around, holidays can be very troublesome for me, specially the long ones. After a few days I start feeling sick, rather melancholic. There is this mixed feeling that I wish to write something, have an idea on my mind but simply don’t feel like. Or I have this amazing and intriguing book next to me but I don’t at all want to read because all I want to do is go and hit the roads.

So until I could finally get back to the life I was living back in UAE, I will just make do of my university. And talking about university, a new semester begins tomorrow so I am looking forward to another set of new experiences, pressures and fun and will take it as an opportunity to get rid of these unwanted feelings.

I’m feeling positive Alhumdulilah 🙂

From the heart

Love or Respect

I have reached a point in my life where I no more believe it is essential for love to exist but I surely believe that it is utterly important for respect to exist in any relationship. I have reached a point in my life that I feel love never promises respect in a relationship but respect will always bring in love. It’s a point in my life when I wish to have more respect than love because love can always end up giving pain but respect will always make one feel positive. Love no more holds an importance for me because I have seen people fight furiously being in love whereas people who loved as well as respected each other remained calm and protective about each other. Love can make oneself mean and greedy as well as possessive but respect brings in care and understanding for the other one. Love can sometimes want to prove everything but respect will only do silently. Love can be terrifying but respect only satisfies. Love can sometimes count all your flaws but respect will always appreciate those loop holes. Don’t love me so that one day you can tell me what all you have done for me, instead respect me so that one day you can realize what all I did for you as well. And together we can complete each other.

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When Will Satisfaction Be In Our Blood?

I see people crying and whining despite being blessed with a fully functioning body, a luxurious home to live in, a complete family to enjoy life and a job to fulfill every materialistic desire….but they are not happy. I hear people complaining that how devastated their lives are because they don’t have someone to understand them when Allah is always there to listen and answer to their prayers. I notice people being cranky just because few people left a negative comment about them and they fail to see so many others who still love and care about them. It breaks my heart to hear people saying that nothing is going right in their life while they have been gifted with a loving partner. People keep moaning about how everyone betrays them but in between all that they miss the wisdom behind it that it may be just so they can be safe from the fake people.

Sometimes parents disappoint me as well….because all I hear them grumbling is that their kids are up to no good when on the other hand they are the best sports player at school or maybe in the whole town. At times nothing satisfies parents. No excellency in academics. No perfectionism in a certain skill. Not even when people praise us in front of them….I see no pride….and why I simply don’t get….

But there is one promise I am going to make myself do. A promise, that may help change this world for good. If you want to see satisfaction in your blood then you too make yourself promise, that no matter what, where and how I am, I am going to do my best, yes, my best, to be satisfied with myself, my loved ones, my job, my situation, my life and most importantly the blessings that Allah bestows me. This is because you should believe that happiness lies in no other place then the place you are in right now…

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The Art of Giving Advice

Advice are free and unwanted as well (majority of the time). Plus, some people never realize the difference between an advice and a taunt. Lately, scrolling down the comments of many of the pages of famous personalities it feels sad that people, specially us Muslims have forgotten our manners. Yes, as a Muslim it is our duty to bring our brothers and sisters on the right path, but there is a certain boundary, a certain way of telling others that they are wrong. Bashing them with insensitive comments and foul language will only create a more distance between them and the right path.

We call ourselves followers of Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him), let me give you a beautiful example of one of his life’s incident which will help you respond in a better way next time you catch someone committing a sin.

Sayyidah Aisha (R.A) related to us that (once) a man asked for the permission to meet the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to us that he was a bad son (or member) of his tribe and asked us to let him come. When he came, Prophet (peace be upon him) spoke to him very politely. (After he had left) Aisha (R.A) said: O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), you spoke to him cheerfully although earlier you had expressed a poor opinion of him that he was a bad representative of his tribe. The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: “The worst people in Allah’s sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people leave (undisturbed) to be away from their evil (deeds).” (Bukhari)

Explanation: the gist of the tradition mentioned above is that even if a man is not good we should speak to him with politeness, or else people may begin to avoid our company on account of our incivility. Further, such a man is worthless in the sight of Allah and he will be in great loss in the hereafter.  Also, the purpose of Prophet (peace be upon him) was not to backbite about that person but rather warn the people to refrain from getting involved with the evil. (Source: The Intellect Magazine)

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So if our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) stayed calm in the presence of a person who did wrong things, who are we to accuse and call people with bad names. There are two ways to give advice. You can take that person aside, correct them in privacy that too in a humble manner, not in a way that it may show you to be arrogant about being too good. If you can’t correct someone with your words with the fear that they may avoid you and you may lose them forever, then show them by your acts. Once they notice you refraining from the wrong deeds and doing more of good deeds, it will inspire them to do the same as well. In case of popular personalities, you have the option of leaving them a private message on their Facebook pages or other social networks.

It is never right to humiliate someone in the public. The best way is to talk politely, act wisely and pray honestly to Allah for bringing them to the right path as well.

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