The Art of Giving Advice

Advice are free and unwanted as well (majority of the time). Plus, some people never realize the difference between an advice and a taunt. Lately, scrolling down the comments of many of the pages of famous personalities it feels sad that people, specially us Muslims have forgotten our manners. Yes, as a Muslim it is our duty to bring our brothers and sisters on the right path, but there is a certain boundary, a certain way of telling others that they are wrong. Bashing them with insensitive comments and foul language will only create a more distance between them and the right path.

We call ourselves followers of Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him), let me give you a beautiful example of one of his life’s incident which will help you respond in a better way next time you catch someone committing a sin.

Sayyidah Aisha (R.A) related to us that (once) a man asked for the permission to meet the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to us that he was a bad son (or member) of his tribe and asked us to let him come. When he came, Prophet (peace be upon him) spoke to him very politely. (After he had left) Aisha (R.A) said: O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), you spoke to him cheerfully although earlier you had expressed a poor opinion of him that he was a bad representative of his tribe. The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: “The worst people in Allah’s sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people leave (undisturbed) to be away from their evil (deeds).” (Bukhari)

Explanation: the gist of the tradition mentioned above is that even if a man is not good we should speak to him with politeness, or else people may begin to avoid our company on account of our incivility. Further, such a man is worthless in the sight of Allah and he will be in great loss in the hereafter.  Also, the purpose of Prophet (peace be upon him) was not to backbite about that person but rather warn the people to refrain from getting involved with the evil. (Source: The Intellect Magazine)


So if our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) stayed calm in the presence of a person who did wrong things, who are we to accuse and call people with bad names. There are two ways to give advice. You can take that person aside, correct them in privacy that too in a humble manner, not in a way that it may show you to be arrogant about being too good. If you can’t correct someone with your words with the fear that they may avoid you and you may lose them forever, then show them by your acts. Once they notice you refraining from the wrong deeds and doing more of good deeds, it will inspire them to do the same as well. In case of popular personalities, you have the option of leaving them a private message on their Facebook pages or other social networks.

It is never right to humiliate someone in the public. The best way is to talk politely, act wisely and pray honestly to Allah for bringing them to the right path as well.

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