I feel like anger is another subject that not much people in our society want to talk about. The maximum I hear people say is that don’t get angry. ‘Anger is not good,’ is all that I hear around. It’s like anger is some form of a bad word and nobody wants to take it as a natural human emotion. But actually anger is just like what happiness or sadness is to human feelings.
In our society girls are asked to control their anger whereas boys are encouraged to relieve their anger through various violent behaviours. I wonder if anyone even realizes what harm this kind of attitude is doing to our society. Women being asked to control their anger would have a bad impact on their psychological well being. Men been allowed to be as aggressive as they want will not teach them to take care of their impulses and will also influence the people around them in a negative manner.
So before I even begin to address the issue of anger I want you to become less biased. Men and women may have different biological features and processes but at the end of the day both of them are human beings and it is normal for both the gender to experience anger from time to time. Accept anger just like any other emotion.
Next, don’t talk about controlling anger. It is not some wild animal that needs to be controlled by putting it in a cage. We rather need to learn ways to handle it because expressing anger in a healthy way is better than not expressing anger at all. Expressing anger is not wrong but how you express anger matters the most.
It is true the current generation is very aggressive and that is sometimes not at all acceptable for our elders. Extreme anger cannot be lessened by controlling it but by channelizing it in healthy activities.
Some of the ways to deal with anger:
Anger is nothing but negative energy and there are very healthy ways through which you can relieve it.
- A fast and vigorous workout really helps to get out that negative energy. Even a simple jogging in the park will help to calm you down.
- A simple art activity like doodling is enough to get you back to your senses. 😉 Try it and feel the difference.
- You can find lots of apps of nature sounds. Listening to them really helps to relax and soothe your mind.
- Eat something sweet even as small as a candy.
- Pray 5 times a day on a regular basis.
- Listen to Quranic verses.
- Do zikr Allah
If you are someone who frequently loses their temper then you should work on these simple tips. I won’t say that you will start handling your anger in a fortnight but with time you will get better in expressing your anger in ways that is socially acceptable and healthier for your well being. If you know someone who frequently gets angry then help them handle their anger rather than asking them to control it.