The Price Of A Differently Abled Child

Have you ever looked into the eyes of a special child? Their eyes reflect innocence like every other child. God has only created them in a different way which sometimes requires extra attention from their care takers. But then who isn’t different. The society takes advantage of this situation and makes the parent pay a hefty price for something that wasn’t in their control.

Looks of disapproval

The society makes the parent pay when they look at their child with disbelieving eyes. When they show annoyance for their child’s restlessness. When the society fails to provide support to their parents. The world makes the parent pay a price when they look at them in a degrading manner. What these people forget is that beauty and intelligence come in different forms.

We all face hurdles

One of the biggest myths about a child with special needs is that they bring unhappiness to their parents. But they fail to understand that a child who is like every other doesn’t always guarantees success and happiness to their parents. Each one of us faces some form of difficulty in life. God tests each one of us so no one has any right to look down upon a child who might be slightly different than the rest. No person has any right to label any child.

The experts take advantage

The health welfare team charges tons of money for helping the child deal with their limitations. While some countries may be considerate enough to provide financial help to parents, organizations in many countries take it as an opportunity to fill their pockets with as much as you can.

Every child deserves respect

A child may score low in their academics.

A child may stutter while speaking.

A child may show lack of confidence when in public.

A child may lack some form of capability.

A child may be mentally challenged.

A child may be physically disabled.

A child may face difficulty in focusing.

A child may be hyperactive.

A child may require extra help.

A child may require more attention.

But they all deserve to be respected.

What People Have To Say About Me Being A Quiet Person…

I enjoy talking but with those people with whom I can relate. I am usually hungry for intellectual talks which can help me increase my knowledge. People who mostly have tons of gossip or boost about materialistic goods don’t fascinate me. I’d rather be alone than spend time with people whose sole purpose is to gossip. This ideally means that I don’t interact much with every person I meet and it is always funny to hear what people have to say about me.

  • They think I am arrogant because I remain serious among strangers but they don’t understand that this is my nature.
  • I am considered to be a jealous person because I don’t inquire much about their life. But this is just because I don’t ask about things that have no concern for me. I would never ask a friend what her husband does as a living because that won’t benefit me. I will however be interested to know what my friend wishes to do in her life so I could assist her in some way.
  • People think that I am not confident enough to speak but they don’t know that I have confidently presented in class presentations and have conducted group counselling sessions and workshops at different places.
  • I am judged as a rude person but sometimes I just want to remain quiet.

Why I enjoy being a quiet person at times?

Sometimes I just want to be a spectator to different situations and this in turn also helps me to writer better. I get to understand a situation without being in it and that allows me to see every ones perspective. I enjoy listening to what other people have to say and I can be a good listener if I want to be. I like reflecting on situations and being quiet means I get to think thoroughly about a situation.

Another reason why I am quiet is because I don’t enjoy speaking at the top of my lungs. If I am a gathering where I will have to raise my voice to speak to everyone than I prefer being quiet. I get tired too easily if I speak loudly for long durations. Lastly, I cherish the people close to me and there are few of those. I don’t find it comfortable opening up to everyone and that is why I am mostly listening than talking. But if you find me sitting with my favourite people you will surely judge me as a talkative person.

So this was about me. What about you? Are you an introvert or an extravert? What judgements do you have to hear for being any of those? Share it in the comments section. Let’s make this blog post more interesting.

Don’t Fill Your Diary With Negative Memories

Often when we write in our diary it is usually to express our feelings about a negative experience. I have heard people say that it helps them feel better and I agree that it sure does. But what happens when in some point in your life you start reading those entries?

Going back to read old diary entries can leave you depressed if they are mostly sad. This is one reason why I discourage myself to write in my diary when I encounter with a bad situation. Even if I do write something negative I make sure that I end it with a positive note.

This is what you can do to make your diary more inspiring.

Fill your diary with positive experiences

People mostly write in their diary when they are sad and that is how a personal diary turns into a diary full of tragedies. So when you read it at some point all the negative encounters make you think that your life is bad and nothing good has ever happened.

While you write about your bad experiences you should also write in your diary when a good event occurs. This way you will actually get an overall perspective of your life and you won’t feel sad.

Leave some space when writing about a negative event

It’s good to express your feelings and some of us enjoy doing it by writing them. But do one thing. When you are suffering through a bad phase, write about it and leave some space. Once you are out of your bad phase you can go back to that entry and write about your experience, what you learnt during that difficult time, how did you get out of it and anything else that will make you feel that every bad phase has an end. Next time you are going through a bad time you can use this entry to become optimistic about your situation.

I used these two techniques to make my diary a source of inspiration rather than a booklet full of grief. I hope it helps you too.

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