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Unsuccessful and Happiness! Can They Exist Together?

Unsuccessful and happiness, can they exist together? If we are going to rely on the society for the answer it will be a ‘No.’ But let me tell you, never rely on the society to define your success and the terms and conditions of your happiness because people’s idea of success and happiness is built from their perspective and from what they have been blessed in the journey of life. So your and someone else’s blessings are never going to be exactly same, in fact at times they will be totally opposite so how can we follow a plan of success and happiness that everyone else is following.

You Define Your Own Happiness

The few months that I had spent working in an orphanage taught me that happiness is a choice. Their beaming faces showed me that if they can be happy without a proper family and without the many luxuries of life then I too can. It was that turning point in my life when I decided that I will make happiness my choice and not some state that can be only achieved when I achieve a certain criteria in my life. That was the day I redefined happiness for my sake. For me happiness was then about being able to spend a quality time with my parents, getting to work in the field I was passionate about and was able to submit my university assignments in a timely manner. The criteria I had set were according to what I was doing then. Since I have graduated now, happiness for me is having a lot of free time on my hands so I get to focus on my hobbies. The money in my bank account is close to nothing right now but even then I am happy because for me money isn’t a criterion for my happiness. But let us just say that I do get a lot of money in my bank account, then that too will become a source for my happiness but not a source of sadness when it declines again. Putting it in a simpler way, our happiness depends on how grateful we are with what we already have and not what we are yet to have or desire to have.

Though I do agree that sometimes sadness or depressed feelings are inevitable since we are human beings and it is this sadness that helps us to think clearly at times. But your goal should always be to break this circle of depressive thoughts and focus on the blessings you have.

You Also Define Your Own Success

Just like happiness, success should also be defined by you only. The world will tell you that success is when you have a lot of money, when you are famous, or at a high position in your career or someone who is doing a lot in life. But I say that even a housewife who is happily cooking meals for her family, looking after her children and husband and is constantly trying hard to give comfort to others is success. A father, who may not be earning a lot of money, but each day he comes home and does things for his children and wife that brings a smile on their faces is once again success. Or let us take the example of a child who may not be able to do well at school but is a well-mannered child at home is yet again success. So you will never be unsuccessful if you define success for yourself.

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You may be unsuccessful for the world but you can still be happy because it is you who should be defining your criteria for success and happiness. Hence unsuccessful and happiness can exist together.

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Develop Your Personality By Knowing Your Self-Worth

One of the key factors when it comes to developing your personality is to know your self-worth.

What is self-worth?

Sayeda Habib says in her book ‘Life Coaching For Muslims: Discover The Best In You!,’ “Self-worth is a value that is placed on a human life just by virtue of the fact that Allah created it. Self-worth is not about personal sense of entitlement; everyone is exactly equal in this regard.”

So basically, self-worth is to know that no matter what your financial status is, it doesn’t matter what is your skin colour, or to which part of the world you belong to, you are equally important because Allah created you and there is always a purpose in what He creates.

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People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem

Some signs that you know your self-worth:

  • If you come across someone wealthy or with a good professional background you still expect to be respected.
  • Your failures or successes don’t define your worth.
  • You believe in the purpose of your existence.
  • People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem.
  • Even if your self-esteem is negatively affected sometimes, you make sure to work on it.
People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem
If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be

Some signs that you don’t know your self-worth

  • You let other people demean you.
  • Your opinion about yourself depends on what people think of you.
  • Your failures and successes define your self-worth.
  • People with higher financial or profession status can treat you as they want and you don’t find anything wrong about it.
  • If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be.

Tips to know your self-worth

If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be
Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about
  • Understand that you were created by Allah and He created you because you were worthy to be in this world.
  • Think of the time when Muslims are performing pilgrimage, men despite of whatever background they come from they are all wearing two pieces of white unstitched cloth. This is the biggest example that we are all equal in the sight of Allah.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah increases according to the number of good deeds you perform and not according to how much money you earn or how good looking you are.
  • Ponder about your blessings; Allah gave it all to you because He loves you more than your mother.

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Till Then Have Faith In Allah…

Assalam u alaikum readers.

I wasn’t able to do a blog post on Monday and still haven’t been able to write one despite all the ideas being jotted down. I have been a bit busy with cleaning work and de-cluttering my room. This is just something I wrote to motivate my readers for no matter whatever hardship they are going through. Hope you like it. 🙂

I know it is dark out there,

But it won’t be dark forever,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know things are not going right,

But they will have to get better someday,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot find a ray of hope,

But I am sure it is near,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know people can be heartless and evil,

But it is not that good people don’t exist,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot see any sign of your wishes coming true,

But I am sure that behind doors they are already in action,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know achieving your goal is difficult,

But your goal is still possible,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you are having a hard time finding a solution,

But you are surely going to find one,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you have had several heartbreaks,

But you are going to find someone who will mend it all,

Till then have faith in Allah.

Just have faith in Allah,

Because victory will be yours!

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Jazakallah khairun kaseerun.

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Everything You Wanted To Know About My Book

Several of my readers had few questions regarding my book so I thought why not do a blog post which might even give others an idea.

Name of the book

Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration

Purpose behind writing this book

The idea behind writing this book was to inspire people, especially Muslims to live optimistically. I observed that a lot of Muslims, particularly Asian Muslims end up whining about every little misfortune in their lives. Even when things are going well the focus is always on the negative. Some of my own friends keep crying about their situation with no will to change their mindset about life which leads to more misery.

My source of inspiration

My life, the incidents that took place in my life, the stories I learnt about other peoples’ lives and my psychologist profession.

Who should read this book?

Anyone who wants/needs inspiration to live their life positively with hopeful thoughts.

What to expect from Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration?

It is packed with honest tales from my life that led me to develop this positive perspective. It consists of well researched topics with mentioning of various scientific studies. It is concise and effective and can be read by those who have a busy schedule.

What to not expect from Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration?

It is not an Islamic preaching book because I am no scholar.

When will the book be available?

20th February 2018

Where can you purchase it from?

It will be released on Amazon so will be available there for purchase. However, for my readers located in Pakistan I am trying to arrange another option. Follow my Facebook page for more updates.

How to remain updated about the book?

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Jazakallah khairun kaseerun

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The Concept of New Year

Each new year people excitedly celebrate and use it as a way to cover their past grieves and go about thinking that the coming year will bring some magical transformation in their lives. But honestly, new year is just another set of 365 days when we are getting another chance to fulfill the purpose that we were initially sent for in this Dunya.

 

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Originally our Islamic new year begins in Muharram but even then there is nothing to celebrate about it. In fact stepping into the new year means that we are one year closer to our death bed or maybe even on the same year when death is written in our fate.

Having new year resolutions is not wrong but you need to be mindful of your purpose in this Dunya. Have plans that revolve around becoming a better Muslim, doing more Ibad’ah and putting efforts to understand your Deen.

It’s okay if you take your new year as a new beginning but make it a beginning of becoming serious about Aakhirah because you never know when your time will be up.

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