Make the Most of the Last 10 Days of Ramadan While You Are Busy

You may be a housewife, a mother, a father with a fulltime job, a student striving hard to achieve high grades. As a devoted Muslim you would want to make the most of the last 10 days of Ramadan, particularly the Laylatul Qadr nights while also focusing on your daily chores.

I have put together 10 tips that will help you make the most of the last 10 days of Ramadan.

  • Limit social networking and unnecessary cell phone usage. This will save your time which usually gets wasted and you can replace these activities with doing more Ibad’ah, Insha Allah. Read my blog post: Ways to Limit Your Social Networking Usage.
  • Complete your Eid shopping and most of the tasks before the 19th Ramadan. You wouldn’t want to stress yourself on the last 10 days of Ramadan hence it will be a better idea to get most of your work done before that.
  • Get activity stuffs for children. If you have young children that create a lot of nuisance while you are praying then maybe you can get them some new activity stuffs that they enjoy doing. This will keep them engaged thus giving you some peaceful time to do your Ibad’ah.
  • Create an environment for Laylatul Qadr nights. A clean, freshly washed prayer mat, with your room being scented and lit with a dim light may create a beautiful atmosphere for the Laylatul Qadr nights and will give you the motivation to pray. When using a scent make sure that it is one which will keep you refreshed and not put you off to sleep.
  • Do zikr Allah while doing your work. Since you won’t be able to pray at all times you can recite ‘Astaghfirullah,’ or many other Du’as stated in the Qur’an and Hadith. Doing zikr Allah also puts Barakah in your time.
  • Schedule your Ibad’ah routine. Just like you have work schedules, schedule the times when you will be solely praying, reading Quran or making Du’a.
  • Utilize free time to make Du’a. Allah is listening to you at all times. So anytime you find yourself but not able to pray, start making Du’a.
  • Keep yourself hydrated and energized. Staying awake at night and having to work in the morning while fasting can really get you tired. So keep yourself energized by eating lots of dates, fruits, and drinking water during the night hours. Read my blog post at TBN: Mind Tricks to Eat Healthy This Ramadan.
  • Keep a mini Qur’an with you when leaving home. So that anytime you find yourself doing nothing, you can simply read it. Read my article at Muslim Bloggers website: Are You Lagging Behind in Finishing Qur’an This Ramadan?
  • Listen to Qur’an when you cannot read it. Save surahs in your cell phone and play them while driving your car, or while you work in the kitchen or at your office.

These were my 10 tips to making the most of the last 10 days of Ramadan. I’d love to get more tips from my readers. Feel free to comment below.

Do remember me in your prayers and do remember Syria, Palestine, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iraq, Somalia, Burma and many other places where the Muslim Ummah is suffering, in your prayers.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun

Ways To Limit Your Social Network Usage

Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Whatsapp are few of the social networks that we use on a daily basis. Sometimes we find ourselves doing nothing other than endlessly scrolling down the newsfeed of different social networks, checking for new updates and feeling bad about how less interesting our life is when compared to the lives of other people on your friends’ list.

With Ramadan just a few days away I thought why not write an article on social networking since I myself had gone through the phase of social network addiction 2 months back and I really had to take up some immediate steps because too much of anything is never good. Plus, I believe that Allah created us for a better purpose than spending hours on social networks doing nothing.

  • Delete apps

There is this illusion of constant connectivity through the social network apps that we have installed on our smart phones and tabs. The instant notifications bound us to cater to them right at that moment. Instead of using apps on the go, fix a time when you will go online though laptop and respond to those notifications.

This applies even to those people who work online from home. I also work from home and this is my experience that instead of responding to your clients at any time of the day you must fix certain hours of the day during which you will be available to answer your clients. Don’t fear that by not being available all the time you will lose clients. Your clients need to know that you have a life outside of work and you also need to give yourself a break.

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  • Fight the urge

Now there are some apps that you can only use on your smart phones or tabs so obviously you won’t be able to delete them. For such apps you should lessen getting the notifications if there are any such options available. Apart from that, even if you get the notification, fight the urge of checking it instantly. Also, another thing you can do is to keep no sound for the notifications so you don’t get distracted while you are working.

  • Start your day with a purpose

The main reason why we find ourselves hooked to various social networks is because we don’t have a purpose. We simply wake up each day for the sake of it and do our work as usual. Have a purpose for each. Like, ‘Today I will respond to all the pending emails,’ or ‘I am going to finish my work early today so I can read my book.’

  • Engage more with the people around you

Have you ever realized that you are more aware of your Facebook friends’ life than what your mother, father or spouse are going through? It is because we don’t make conscious efforts to strengthen our bond with the family any more. Keep your smartphone aside, look up and speak to the people living in your home. It will make you feel much better because you will be speaking to someone who isn’t there to boost about their life but is rather there to have a real conversation with you.

I really hope these tips benefit you like it did to me. Do share any other tips you have for limiting our time spent on social networks. If you have a problem to discuss, you can reach out to at aisha2aboo@gmail.com.

Don’t Fill Your Diary With Negative Memories

Often when we write in our diary it is usually to express our feelings about a negative experience. I have heard people say that it helps them feel better and I agree that it sure does. But what happens when in some point in your life you start reading those entries?

Going back to read old diary entries can leave you depressed if they are mostly sad. This is one reason why I discourage myself to write in my diary when I encounter with a bad situation. Even if I do write something negative I make sure that I end it with a positive note.

This is what you can do to make your diary more inspiring.

Fill your diary with positive experiences

People mostly write in their diary when they are sad and that is how a personal diary turns into a diary full of tragedies. So when you read it at some point all the negative encounters make you think that your life is bad and nothing good has ever happened.

While you write about your bad experiences you should also write in your diary when a good event occurs. This way you will actually get an overall perspective of your life and you won’t feel sad.

Leave some space when writing about a negative event

It’s good to express your feelings and some of us enjoy doing it by writing them. But do one thing. When you are suffering through a bad phase, write about it and leave some space. Once you are out of your bad phase you can go back to that entry and write about your experience, what you learnt during that difficult time, how did you get out of it and anything else that will make you feel that every bad phase has an end. Next time you are going through a bad time you can use this entry to become optimistic about your situation.

I used these two techniques to make my diary a source of inspiration rather than a booklet full of grief. I hope it helps you too.

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Jazakillah khair

Are You Guilty Of Ruining Relationships With Your Words?

No matter how good we are there will always be certain weaknesses that will let us down. One of these weaknesses can be the use of harsh words that ruins relationships. It can be a wicked tongue that creates distance between loved ones or a constant taunt that draws people away from each other.

As much as you know it isn’t healthy you still have difficulty putting a stop to this habit and end up losing a good bond. Well, I would like to share a few tips which will help you control your impulses whenever you feeling like uttering something that is unacceptable.

  • Talk only what is needed. This will help you avoid blurting anything that will offend the other person. When your conversation is short and on point you are more aware of what you are saying and that will help keep a control on your words.
  • If you are losing your cool then change your position. This will help to divert your attention to something else. If it is a person who is making you angry then you can move away from them or if possible even leave that room.
  • If you are having an urge to speak something bad start reciting Du’as. These days I consider smart phones quite a life saver when it comes to awkward situations. You can quickly indulge yourself in an interesting article or a fun game.
  • Be mindful of Allah because whatever wrong you will say will be recorded and Allah will not like it. You should be conscious that Allah is watching you at all times.

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These are quite simple yet effective tips to help you control the tongue. Start applying them from right now and Insha Allah you will find yourself improving in a short span of time.

 

How To Deal With Happiness Hangover?

So in one of my previous blog post I had written about feeling sad after a thrill of excitement. I had defined this feeling as happiness hangover and had promised to write about how you can deal with it.

Before I talk about dealing with happiness hangover I want to explain a little more about why it happens. Yes, it happens after you have felt extremely happy but that is not it. Happiness hangover is a feeling that comes when we feel that this is it. I have got what I wanted. You might be anticipating for your wedding ceremony and once it is over with all its fun filled parties you start feeling low. It can also be getting that promotion which you had been working so hard for and once you get it you feel low after a certain amount of time has passed.

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That low feeling is the exact moment when realization hits, this is it, I have achieved what I wanted to achieve. That’s it! So in order to tackle with happiness hangover you should instead ask yourself ‘What next?’

After attaining that one dream your life doesn’t stops there so why should you stop there. Start planning for your next goal. Ask yourself that what you should do now. If you are finally married you should begin working on becoming a responsible spouse. If you have been promoted you need to gear up and work hard to take over more tasks. The point to deal with happiness hangover is to not become stagnant. Keep moving on.

Also before you start to work on your next goal take a short break to reflect. Become mindful of your new situation and the new demands it expects from you. Make a rough plan that will help you settle in your new role. Lastly, have faith in Allah and don’t forget to thank Him.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.

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Heal Monday Blues With These Tips

Ahh, so here is Monday again. Time to get back to work. To the same old boring routine, and wait for another 5 days so you can sleep again for long hours. Why can’t there be another day in between Sunday and Monday so that we can prepare for Monday. But alas, that isn’t happening so why not check out these few tips to help you heal your Monday blues.

Prepare for your Monday beforehand

Many of you avoid thinking about Monday until the very last minute when it is almost time to sleep. To make your Monday less stressful it is ideal that you are mentally prepared. If there are any important tasks to be done on Monday then stay mentally prepared. Before you sleep make a mental note of all the things you will have to do the next day.

Add a special breakfast to your Monday routine

People plan ahead for making their Sunday mealtimes a fun. But why not add specialty to your Monday breakfasts as well. This will help you wake up more enthusiastically.

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Wear your favourite outfit

Another way you can make your Monday special is by wearing your favourite dress to work. Match it up with certain formal accessories and you will feel good about stepping out of your house.

Just make your Monday special

The reason why we find Monday boring is because it is an indication of the same old routine that we had just gotten rid of two days before. The idea behind healing Monday blues is to add something special to your Monday routine.

Bring some creativity and see yourself feeling good about your Mondays. Do let me know what special are you planning for this Monday.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.

 

Do You Feel Sad After A Thrill Of Excitement?

So you heard an exciting news you were expecting for days. It all seems perfect. Happiness is in the air. You are excited and you know it will feel good from here but suddenly you go in a state of sadness. You feel low and depressed and don’t know what to do next.

A state of sadness after a thrill of excitement or happiness is called ‘happiness hangover.’ Happiness hangover happens to all of us. It is our body’s way of telling us, ‘take a break there is too much of an emotion.’ I often take this example to apply it to life. Our lives are a roller coaster ride with both ups and downs. There are situations that take us over the moon and there are moments which leave us disappointed. SubhanAllah this is the beauty of life because Allah knows too much of any emotion cannot benefit us.

One of the many reasons I tell people why times of despair and unhappiness seems good because we cannot be happy and grateful if we have not encountered with sad moments. Moments of disparity teaches us to appreciate happiness when we get blessed with it.

It is also a sign that sadness won’t last for long so we shouldn’t worry a lot. Happiness is also only for a certain time so we should try living in that moment.

Whenever you feel overexcited and then feel a tinge of sadness know that it is time to take a break. It can be your friends that has left you very excited. You can take time alone to reflect then. It can be an improvement in your lifestyle that has left you overwhelmed. You can take that moment to ponder upon all the blessings you had so far and the struggles you went through to get to this point.

Lastly, don’t forget to thank Allah. Be grateful to Allah at all times. That feeling of gloominess is a sign telling you to thank Allah for the blessings you are given. Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Therefore remember Me, I will remember you, and be thank­ful to Me, and do not be ungrateful to Me” – (Surah Baqarah, 152) 

I will be writing more on how to deal with happiness hangover. Until then, Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.