Are You Guilty Of Ruining Relationships With Your Words?

No matter how good we are there will always be certain weaknesses that will let us down. One of these weaknesses can be the use of harsh words that ruins relationships. It can be a wicked tongue that creates distance between loved ones or a constant taunt that draws people away from each other.

As much as you know it isn’t healthy you still have difficulty putting a stop to this habit and end up losing a good bond. Well, I would like to share a few tips which will help you control your impulses whenever you feeling like uttering something that is unacceptable.

  • Talk only what is needed. This will help you avoid blurting anything that will offend the other person. When your conversation is short and on point you are more aware of what you are saying and that will help keep a control on your words.
  • If you are losing your cool then change your position. This will help to divert your attention to something else. If it is a person who is making you angry then you can move away from them or if possible even leave that room.
  • If you are having an urge to speak something bad start reciting Du’as. These days I consider smart phones quite a life saver when it comes to awkward situations. You can quickly indulge yourself in an interesting article or a fun game.
  • Be mindful of Allah because whatever wrong you will say will be recorded and Allah will not like it. You should be conscious that Allah is watching you at all times.

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These are quite simple yet effective tips to help you control the tongue. Start applying them from right now and Insha Allah you will find yourself improving in a short span of time.

 

How To Deal With Happiness Hangover?

So in one of my previous blog post I had written about feeling sad after a thrill of excitement. I had defined this feeling as happiness hangover and had promised to write about how you can deal with it.

Before I talk about dealing with happiness hangover I want to explain a little more about why it happens. Yes, it happens after you have felt extremely happy but that is not it. Happiness hangover is a feeling that comes when we feel that this is it. I have got what I wanted. You might be anticipating for your wedding ceremony and once it is over with all its fun filled parties you start feeling low. It can also be getting that promotion which you had been working so hard for and once you get it you feel low after a certain amount of time has passed.

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That low feeling is the exact moment when realization hits, this is it, I have achieved what I wanted to achieve. That’s it! So in order to tackle with happiness hangover you should instead ask yourself ‘What next?’

After attaining that one dream your life doesn’t stops there so why should you stop there. Start planning for your next goal. Ask yourself that what you should do now. If you are finally married you should begin working on becoming a responsible spouse. If you have been promoted you need to gear up and work hard to take over more tasks. The point to deal with happiness hangover is to not become stagnant. Keep moving on.

Also before you start to work on your next goal take a short break to reflect. Become mindful of your new situation and the new demands it expects from you. Make a rough plan that will help you settle in your new role. Lastly, have faith in Allah and don’t forget to thank Him.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.

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Heal Monday Blues With These Tips

Ahh, so here is Monday again. Time to get back to work. To the same old boring routine, and wait for another 5 days so you can sleep again for long hours. Why can’t there be another day in between Sunday and Monday so that we can prepare for Monday. But alas, that isn’t happening so why not check out these few tips to help you heal your Monday blues.

Prepare for your Monday beforehand

Many of you avoid thinking about Monday until the very last minute when it is almost time to sleep. To make your Monday less stressful it is ideal that you are mentally prepared. If there are any important tasks to be done on Monday then stay mentally prepared. Before you sleep make a mental note of all the things you will have to do the next day.

Add a special breakfast to your Monday routine

People plan ahead for making their Sunday mealtimes a fun. But why not add specialty to your Monday breakfasts as well. This will help you wake up more enthusiastically.

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Wear your favourite outfit

Another way you can make your Monday special is by wearing your favourite dress to work. Match it up with certain formal accessories and you will feel good about stepping out of your house.

Just make your Monday special

The reason why we find Monday boring is because it is an indication of the same old routine that we had just gotten rid of two days before. The idea behind healing Monday blues is to add something special to your Monday routine.

Bring some creativity and see yourself feeling good about your Mondays. Do let me know what special are you planning for this Monday.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.

 

Do You Feel Sad After A Thrill Of Excitement?

So you heard an exciting news you were expecting for days. It all seems perfect. Happiness is in the air. You are excited and you know it will feel good from here but suddenly you go in a state of sadness. You feel low and depressed and don’t know what to do next.

A state of sadness after a thrill of excitement or happiness is called ‘happiness hangover.’ Happiness hangover happens to all of us. It is our body’s way of telling us, ‘take a break there is too much of an emotion.’ I often take this example to apply it to life. Our lives are a roller coaster ride with both ups and downs. There are situations that take us over the moon and there are moments which leave us disappointed. SubhanAllah this is the beauty of life because Allah knows too much of any emotion cannot benefit us.

One of the many reasons I tell people why times of despair and unhappiness seems good because we cannot be happy and grateful if we have not encountered with sad moments. Moments of disparity teaches us to appreciate happiness when we get blessed with it.

It is also a sign that sadness won’t last for long so we shouldn’t worry a lot. Happiness is also only for a certain time so we should try living in that moment.

Whenever you feel overexcited and then feel a tinge of sadness know that it is time to take a break. It can be your friends that has left you very excited. You can take time alone to reflect then. It can be an improvement in your lifestyle that has left you overwhelmed. You can take that moment to ponder upon all the blessings you had so far and the struggles you went through to get to this point.

Lastly, don’t forget to thank Allah. Be grateful to Allah at all times. That feeling of gloominess is a sign telling you to thank Allah for the blessings you are given. Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Therefore remember Me, I will remember you, and be thank­ful to Me, and do not be ungrateful to Me” – (Surah Baqarah, 152) 

I will be writing more on how to deal with happiness hangover. Until then, Jazakillah khairun kaseerun.

Making The Most Of My Days ‘OFF’ From Studies

I wasn’t able to write much on my blog for two months since I was busy with my final assignments and exams but now I will be updating my blog frequently.

Alhumdulilah I finished with my bachelor’s degree in Psychology. I had announced it on my Facebook page a few weeks ago but thought now is the time to express my entire feelings on the blog.

Finishing with my bachelor’s degree was one of the dreams that got fulfilled. Soon after my final examinations were over I wasn’t able to focus much on anything because there was still a tiny bit fear of what the results would be. But Alhumdulilah they too turned out to be great.

After my results were announced my heart was completely at ease. I went on reading, surfing the internet and finally was able to get on with finalizing my book. Yes! My book will be out soon. Currently it is in the editing phase. I really hope you guys like it once it’s out. I will be coming up with a giveaway as well so keep an eye on my Facebook page.

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I will also be uploading a blog post with complete details on what the book is about.

Anyways getting back to what I have been doing so far. I enjoy having to wake up in the morning and have nothing to rush about. I go about the day doing what I love, that is reading and writing. So far I have read The Holiday Home by Fern Britton and Me Before You by Jojo Moyes. I am currently reading two books simultaneously, After You by Jojo Moyes and The Secret Life of a Slummy Mummy by Fiona Neill. I am also doing freelance writing jobs side by side. Alhumdulilah I am trying to make the most of these carefree days until I get myself a fulltime job. I am also drinking lots of coffee, hot chocolate and enjoying winter to the most.

I’d really love to know what my readers are up to so do comment below with what’s the latest in your life.

Jazakillah khairun naseerun.

What Stressful Days Teach Me?

Currently, my days are extremely stressful with two theses, quizzes, assignments and my regular university classes. I have to leave home early morning around 8 and only return back around Maghrib. Along with that, there are so many other tasks to complete when I return home. All this has become quite stressful to handle over a span of three weeks.

But there are certain lessons that I get to learn from my stressful days and let me share them with you as well.

Stressing will not take away the stressful days

Before the start of all of the work, I was quite worried. But since all of it has started, things are going smooth, Alhumdulilah. What I have learnt is that stressing during stressful days will not help. Instead remaining calm and keeping faith in Allah will make everything easier. In fact, my day gets less stressful with the trust that, ‘if Allah has brought me so far there is no doubt that He will help me go further.’

Whatever be the case, enjoy your time

These days of my final semester will never return back. In fact, all of the hard work is only teaching me to become a better psychologist. Also, these stressful days will only help me learn how to handle stress in the years to come. I make the most of my day trying to learn as much as I can with the work I do.

Stressful days give me the opportunity to learn more

The days when I get to relax are amazing. But what really teaches me the most are the stressful days. The days of stress brings in a lot of knowledge because it is during these times that I am doing the most amount of work.

Stress is a sign that you are working hard

I took up my second thesis as a challenge because that is a field I really wanted to explore. Each time I feel like doing two theses at once feels like a lot of work I remind myself of my passion related to studying the psyche of children. I remind myself that this is what I wish to do further in my life so some more effort will only polish my skills.

That feeling after the stressful days are over is so AWESOME

You know that moment when you rush through every work to get it done on time and when it finally gets done that feeling of relief takes over. Ah! That is such an amazing feeling to have nothing more to do.

So all in all, stressful days aren’t as bad as people dread them to be. I’d really like to know some of the ways you deal with stress.

Jazakillah Khairun Kaseerun.

Do Not Let a Muslim Celebrity Be Your Muslim Leader

These days we never stop to follow what our favourite celebrities are doing. We are always on a lookout as to what they are up to. In the recent years, several Muslim personalities have emerged and it is making us go wild at all the unique things they are up to.

We have become so keen in following these Muslim celebrities that we have actually forgotten the difference between a Muslim leader and a Muslim celebrity. I see people being inspired by them and considering even the Haram acts as part of Islam just because these famous personalities have a tag of “Muslim.”

My dear Muslim brothers and sisters, please do not follow them blindly. Any Muslim writing statuses related to Islam cannot be your Muslim leader. Know that in order for someone to be able to rightly guide you they need to have a sound knowledge of Islam. Just think, would you ever ask a teacher about medications you could take for your sickness? Of course not, because you know that medications can only be prescribed by a doctor. So how can you take Islamic advice from Muslim celebrities who are yet to understand the right and wrong in Islam?

I am in no way trying to devalue Muslim celebrities. All I want is that my Muslim brothers and sisters should not go astray because someone claims to be pious at times and then get into all sorts of Haram acts at other times. You need to be careful about where you are getting your Deen from. You shouldn’t accept Islamic advice without finding the source it is coming from. You are not an animal who will follow a herd. Alhumdulilah, Allah has created you a human so use your senses for all the right reasons.

I hope my words really do bring change in your life. If you agree to what I have said do share my article with your friends and family.

Jazakillah Khairun Kaseerun