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Develop Your Personality By Knowing Your Self-Worth

One of the key factors when it comes to developing your personality is to know your self-worth.

What is self-worth?

Sayeda Habib says in her book ‘Life Coaching For Muslims: Discover The Best In You!,’ “Self-worth is a value that is placed on a human life just by virtue of the fact that Allah created it. Self-worth is not about personal sense of entitlement; everyone is exactly equal in this regard.”

So basically, self-worth is to know that no matter what your financial status is, it doesn’t matter what is your skin colour, or to which part of the world you belong to, you are equally important because Allah created you and there is always a purpose in what He creates.

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People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem

Some signs that you know your self-worth:

  • If you come across someone wealthy or with a good professional background you still expect to be respected.
  • Your failures or successes don’t define your worth.
  • You believe in the purpose of your existence.
  • People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem.
  • Even if your self-esteem is negatively affected sometimes, you make sure to work on it.
People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem
If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be

Some signs that you don’t know your self-worth

  • You let other people demean you.
  • Your opinion about yourself depends on what people think of you.
  • Your failures and successes define your self-worth.
  • People with higher financial or profession status can treat you as they want and you don’t find anything wrong about it.
  • If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be.

Tips to know your self-worth

If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be
Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about
  • Understand that you were created by Allah and He created you because you were worthy to be in this world.
  • Think of the time when Muslims are performing pilgrimage, men despite of whatever background they come from they are all wearing two pieces of white unstitched cloth. This is the biggest example that we are all equal in the sight of Allah.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah increases according to the number of good deeds you perform and not according to how much money you earn or how good looking you are.
  • Ponder about your blessings; Allah gave it all to you because He loves you more than your mother.

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From the heart

Till Then Have Faith In Allah…

Assalam u alaikum readers.

I wasn’t able to do a blog post on Monday and still haven’t been able to write one despite all the ideas being jotted down. I have been a bit busy with cleaning work and de-cluttering my room. This is just something I wrote to motivate my readers for no matter whatever hardship they are going through. Hope you like it. 🙂

I know it is dark out there,

But it won’t be dark forever,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know things are not going right,

But they will have to get better someday,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot find a ray of hope,

But I am sure it is near,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know people can be heartless and evil,

But it is not that good people don’t exist,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot see any sign of your wishes coming true,

But I am sure that behind doors they are already in action,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know achieving your goal is difficult,

But your goal is still possible,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you are having a hard time finding a solution,

But you are surely going to find one,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you have had several heartbreaks,

But you are going to find someone who will mend it all,

Till then have faith in Allah.

Just have faith in Allah,

Because victory will be yours!

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Everything You Wanted To Know About My Book

Several of my readers had few questions regarding my book so I thought why not do a blog post which might even give others an idea.

Name of the book

Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration

Purpose behind writing this book

The idea behind writing this book was to inspire people, especially Muslims to live optimistically. I observed that a lot of Muslims, particularly Asian Muslims end up whining about every little misfortune in their lives. Even when things are going well the focus is always on the negative. Some of my own friends keep crying about their situation with no will to change their mindset about life which leads to more misery.

My source of inspiration

My life, the incidents that took place in my life, the stories I learnt about other peoples’ lives and my psychologist profession.

Who should read this book?

Anyone who wants/needs inspiration to live their life positively with hopeful thoughts.

What to expect from Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration?

It is packed with honest tales from my life that led me to develop this positive perspective. It consists of well researched topics with mentioning of various scientific studies. It is concise and effective and can be read by those who have a busy schedule.

What to not expect from Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration?

It is not an Islamic preaching book because I am no scholar.

When will the book be available?

20th February 2018

Where can you purchase it from?

It will be released on Amazon so will be available there for purchase. However, for my readers located in Pakistan I am trying to arrange another option. Follow my Facebook page for more updates.

How to remain updated about the book?

Like my book’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/reflectionsfromlife/

Jazakallah khairun kaseerun

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The Concept of New Year

Each new year people excitedly celebrate and use it as a way to cover their past grieves and go about thinking that the coming year will bring some magical transformation in their lives. But honestly, new year is just another set of 365 days when we are getting another chance to fulfill the purpose that we were initially sent for in this Dunya.

 

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Originally our Islamic new year begins in Muharram but even then there is nothing to celebrate about it. In fact stepping into the new year means that we are one year closer to our death bed or maybe even on the same year when death is written in our fate.

Having new year resolutions is not wrong but you need to be mindful of your purpose in this Dunya. Have plans that revolve around becoming a better Muslim, doing more Ibad’ah and putting efforts to understand your Deen.

It’s okay if you take your new year as a new beginning but make it a beginning of becoming serious about Aakhirah because you never know when your time will be up.

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2017 In One Word

I am not going to say this year was completely awesome because it wasn’t. I went through a lot of internal conflicts and struggle in some areas of my life. When 2017 began I was excited and hopeful for the surprises that this year awaited. But after a few months I had to deal with my own complexes and it was terribly hard.

As the months passed after being graduated it was difficult to find the job that held my interest. I don’t want to go in the details because I have already written a blog post about – The Struggle of Finding the Right Job. There still aren’t as many opportunities for a psychologist in Pakistan so seeing my friends already settling with well-paid jobs made me quite anxious. Then low self-esteem kicked in which was another thing that I had to deal with. I found a job as a Montessori teacher only to realize that this isn’t for me and that again left me confused and deserted.

I struggled with few friendships by witnessing them as disloyal. I felt being taken advantage of for my sincerity and honesty. I felt like I was the least of their priorities while they meant a lot to me. I also faced difficulty in some of my other relationships and I was demeaned by them in ways I never thought. Then a month passed during which I and my family became a victim of cyber bullying but Alhamdulilah we got help and good response. If you are reading this right now (yes, you the CYBERBULLY!) know that Allah is my protector and whatever defame you were or were not able to bring to me was all by His will and I trust Him for that. J

I also lost my dearest childhood friend who was like an elder sister to me. It is still hard to believe that she is no more. So overall this was a hard year when it came to relationships but Allah had lots of surprises for me as well.

Alhamdulilah I graduated this year with a degree in Psychology and loved every bit of the farewell week at the university and then the convocation ceremony. I got a freelance editor’s job at a publishing company (I once imagined myself working as an editor) and it happened. I initiated the first step towards my dream project. I also recently found a proper job as a rehab practitioner. I finally became an author and my book is to be released on 20th February 2018 Insha Allah.

So if I look at my year 2017, in one word I’d describe it as ambitious. Despite struggling to maintain relationships with people I have had a number of achievements. Alhamdulilah.

So readers, describe your 2017 in one word or in as many as you like. Let me know in the comments below. It can be even as long as my blog post. Or if you are a blogger why not you write your 2017 experience on your blog and tag me there and make it some sort of a blog loop.

I will be eagerly waiting for your response.

Also, do like the Facebook page of my book, Reflections From Life – A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration to know more about its contents.

Read more about my 2017 experience on my TBN blog; coming up soon!

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun

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The Ultimate Signature

As a writer, each time I write something thought provoking I have a knack of signing underneath it claiming it as my piece. Each time I upload a picture of an inspiring sentence I have written on Facebook or Instagram, I make sure I watermark it with my name. Moving on to anyone else I am sure you too would have loved to mark your possessions with your name or signature.

Another example is that of the artist, designers, architects, who makes sure that their works are recognized by their names. They have a certain style of construct that they use when creating art. It is human nature. We love to be appreciated. We love when people talk ‘look at that extravagant piece made by so and so,’ and we love to get attention from people for our work. We are fascinated by fame and we feel delighted.

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But these buildings, malls, parks, paintings and sculptures are all made by human beings hence it is easier to know who is behind these beauties. But look around and observe the nature. Do you find a signature therein? Can you recognize the creator of such picturesque scenarios? Do you ever stop to wonder how are they functioning on their own? Perhaps we can take the example of an automatic machine which starts working on its own with a single touch of a button and stops working when someone switches it off. Despite the fact that it operates on its own it still requires an intervention to know when to begin and when to stop. Even the most high-tech automated machines need some form of stimuli to begin their process and end it. So is the case with nature.

Also, the machine never came into existence on its own, it required to be manufactured and not just by anyone but an expert in the field of machines. So my point is, if that single machine can’t create itself then how can nature and this whole universe come into existence on its own without an expert creator. How can we miss the ultimate signature?

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Muslimah Bloggers Summit – Free Registration

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Muslimah Bloggers is having their first Online Muslimah Bloggers Summit in 2018 and if you are a blogger who wants to learn more from experienced bloggers then you ought to register for this event. You can even join if you are planning to start a blog.

Muslimah Bloggers is a website and a great platform where female Muslim bloggers connect with each other from all around the world. I am a part of their community since 2015 and while I have lost interest in other online blogger communities, this is one community which keeps me motivated to do better.

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The Online Muslimah Bloggers Summit will start on 8th January and will go on till 12th January 2018. You can get more details about the topics of the summit and the speakers from their website – muslimahbloggerssummit.com. Just to let you know, I am one of the speakers. 😀

This is a great opportunity and you shouldn’t opt to miss it. Visit their website right now for more details about how you can register and how to attend the summit online. You won’t regret being a part of it.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun

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My Book’s Launch Date!

Assalam u alaikum Readers!

Final cover designI am glad to announce the release date of my book, Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration which will be coming out on 20th February 2018, Insha Allah.

More details regarding the book will be coming up soon. For now you can follow the book’s Facebook page.

If you have any questions regarding the book, feel free to ask me in the comment section below.

Jazakillah Khairun Kaseerun

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Diffusion of Responsibility – Are You Doing It?

We live in a digital age where we are told that a ‘like’ or a ‘share’ can help someone in need. This idea of ‘instant help’ is making us develop the habit of diffusion of responsibility. We find it easier to tweet someone’s plea than to actually get out of our seats to give them a helping hand. When an accident occurs, we are more focused about capturing the moment in our gadgets than providing assistance on the spot. The videos or pictures are then shared on various social networks to provoke people for further help through sharing it. People commenting on those posts feel a sense of accomplishment because they feel they have made a big difference through their comments.

I would say it is high time that we become responsible for not just ourselves but also for our surroundings. Instead of relying on another person to stop violence, assault or give charity, let us take a stand. If you see someone in trouble, assist them. If an accident occurs, instead of making a video step forward to help them out. Call the ambulance or take part in transporting them to the hospital. On witnessing a suicide attempt take measures to stop the person instead of taking snaps of the scenario. If you see some form of abuse try to stop it or call for help, making a video of it might help to create awareness but not help the victim as much as you take a step at that moment.

When you read an incident online research on it, find the authenticity of that information and don’t just click the share button. If you come across a post that says that someone is need of blood and you don’t share their blood group, then apart from spreading that news on your social profile, contact your close friends and family, that way help will be quicker.

You might be seeing a lot of pictures of Rohingya Muslims, pictures of assault in Gaza, bloodshed in Syria or pictures of natural disasters around the world. The first thing that you’d do is react to the picture with a sad emoticon, then maybe comment or share it ahead. But apart from doing that, put in greater efforts. You may not be physically able to go there and help but why not remember them in your prayers. Why not reflect upon that information and truly feel sorry. Why not find out about authentic organizations where you can donate money for them.

There is a lot that you and I can do. We just need to become responsible enough to take a stand and know that God only helps those who help themselves.

Jazakillah khairun kaseerun

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Our Limited Thoughts…

We act like we know it all. We pretend to be wearing glasses that show us the whole picture. We go about judging people like we have known their every struggle. We taunt people for their failures as if they did that on purpose. We envy happy, successful people but we haven’t seen them cry during their hardships.

What we see is not always what it is like. There is more to every scenario, to every incident, to every story, than we know. We fail to realize that our limited thoughts only makes us capable enough to see the smaller picture. Our limited thoughts doesn’t allow us to seek the behind the story situation. So let us not judge others, let us give others the benefit of doubt.

When it comes to our lives, our limited thoughts depress us. Since we can’t see the bigger picture, we lose all hopes. We forget who controls our life. We forget the mercy of our Creator. We think that this is it, that there is no way out. We stop living while infinite blessing awaits us. We forget that every struggle is a trial that will fetch us a reward in this world and the Hereafter.

So let us be mindful of our limited thoughts. Let us accept that we will never have complete knowledge of everything. Let us believe in the wisdom of our Creator.

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