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Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind To Become A Better Muslim

Another year and another Ramadan is already here. I am sure most of us must have entered Ramadan once again expecting to fix their bad habits, get rid of their past sins and to start anew. If you are a practising Muslim then you must be striving hard to become a better Muslim each day and you might even be struggling to get rid of some of your bad habits.

I bring to you some steps through which you will be able to reprogram your subconscious mind to become a better Muslim this Ramadan.

Many of you might already be aware of the 3 parts of our mind but in case you are not let me just brief you. Our mind is divided into conscious, subconscious and the unconscious. The conscious part lives in the now, what you are hearing, communicating right now. The subconscious mind stores the recent memories, incidents and is in touch with the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind stores the memories and past experiences. The subconscious mind occupies the majority of your mind and your habitual actions that happen on a daily basis is controlled by the subconscious part of your mind.

Know that the song lyrics we are exposed to, the movie scenes and dialogues we focus on and the people we hang out with all have an impact on our subconscious mind which in turn dictates our actions and thoughts on a daily basis. I could go on talking about how the subconscious mind is impacted through our surroundings but that would mean deviating from the real purpose of this article. Hence I am about to list down 4 techniques that will help you reprogram your subconscious mind to become a better Muslim.

Refrain From Listening To Music

Firstly, start off with deleting songs from your gadgets. The lyrics of the songs highly affect your subconscious mind and may even be a distraction for you from your daily Ibadah. Most of the songs these days are filled with vulgar lyrics that may impact on your daily activities if it gets stored as an information in your subconscious mind. I once heard from someone that you cannot expect the verses of Qur’an and lyrics of a song to stay together in your mind and I totally agree to that. You must have also realized it that on days when you are constantly listening to songs you have difficulty in concentration during your Salah and even listening to Qur’an doesn’t seems interesting. That is because your heart has given place to the lyrics of the songs that you listen to.

So in the start you will probably find it difficult but once you replace listening to songs with Qur’an recitation and nasheeds (without music), after a week or so it will become easier for you to not listen to songs.

Get Rid Of Any Material That Symbolizes A Celebrity

The celebrities that we follow are usually not keen followers of Islam and they do things that are most of the times against the teachings of Islam. So following such people can program your subconscious mind to subconsciously act like them. So tune your mind into following people who teach Deen, find inspirational people who are studying Deen who give Dawah, these are the people who will help you reach Jannah.

Set ‘Good Muslim’ Goals

The reason I have only elaborated two points above is because they are common among us Muslims but there will be more things that we do on a daily basis that inhibit our subconscious mind from becoming a good Muslim. So take this as an assignment or homework, sit in a quiet place and reflect upon your current week and try to find out things that may be inhibiting you from become a better Muslim. Make a list of them and then set ‘good Muslim’ goals.

Visualize The Goals

Before sleeping each night and then when you wake up for suhoor visualize your ‘good Muslim’ goals that you will do during the day. Visualization will help to train your subconscious mind into thinking that this is how you should act and behave and that will make it easier for you to attain your good Muslim goals.

Lastly, keep making Du’a so that Allah helps you in attaining your goals for this Dunya and Aakhirah. Insha Allah with determination and persistence you will be able to strive as a better Muslim each day.

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Wish you a blissful and a productive Ramadan.

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Reflections From Life: A Muslim’s Guide To Inspiration (Available for Purchase)

Assalam u alaikum.

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Have You Written A Breakdown Of Your Goals?

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We all have goals to attain and as simple as it is to set goals, it isn’t easy when it comes to achieving those goals. Not until you are determined and hardworking. Even when you are persistent there will be times when achieving every goal becomes stressful and disappointing. Hence it is necessary to make a breakdown of your goals.

Since it is still the second month of the year, you have time to make a plan but don’t delay it any further if you want to achieve your goals within this year.

Have you already set your goals?

I hope by now you have already set a list of goals that you want to attain in 2018. If not then I recommend that you set your goals as soon as possible before the start of March. Below is a picture of my vision board. You can follow this method.

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Or you can follow some of these examples.

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Breakdown your goals

Once of you have set your goals, the next step is to break them down into short headings. You can see my example. Since these are simpler goals so I have just written a line or two to describe how I am going to achieve them.

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But for more complex goals you can make use of a flowchart diagram or bullet points to describe each step that you will have to work on in order to reach your goal.

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Use a planner diary

I have emphasized on the use of planner diaries various times on my blog and on other websites. So instead of writing about it again I am sharing the links below.

Keep track of your goals as you accomplish them

Have a separate section in your diary or a spot on your wall where you write down your goals and achievements. This will help you keep a track and as the months pass you will know where you stand. Also getting to see that space get filled with the passage of time is motivating.

I pray that you achieve your goals for this year and may you attain success in this world and the Aakhirah.

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Tragedy Of Living In A Superficial World

Something I have been pondering on for days and thought it is time to voice it out. Unfortunately we live in a world where the outside matters more than the inside and this is the tragedy of living in a superficial world.

We are more concerned with how someone looks than what kind of a person they are. Self-care in this superficial worlds means that we look after physical needs thus forgetting to resolve our feelings and emotions. Our relationships are more about finding the benefits we could get than providing them with what they owe in a relationship. Marriages are based on looks and financial status rather than a person’s character and goodness. Family gatherings are about looking at our best than greeting each other with a clean heart. Even when it comes to hygiene we care about wearing clean clothes and lots of scents but forget to physically keep ourselves clean.

I call all this the tragedy of living in a superficial world and sometimes I feel tired of being a part of it. Sometimes I am tired of battling to stay true to who I am and becoming what others want to see in me. This is one of the reasons why my friend circle is small because I like to remain among people who are honest and loyal in their everyday dealings. I like staying among people who are my friends because of who I am as a person and not to fulfill their own motives. I admire friendships that comprise of meaningful conversations rather than only enjoying the glitter and glam of this world together. I prefer people who have guts to say whatever they don’t like about me.

Tell me what are your views about this world? Are you and I on the same page? Do you find yourself a loner when it comes to this superficial world?

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Unsuccessful and Happiness! Can They Exist Together?

Unsuccessful and happiness, can they exist together? If we are going to rely on the society for the answer it will be a ‘No.’ But let me tell you, never rely on the society to define your success and the terms and conditions of your happiness because people’s idea of success and happiness is built from their perspective and from what they have been blessed in the journey of life. So your and someone else’s blessings are never going to be exactly same, in fact at times they will be totally opposite so how can we follow a plan of success and happiness that everyone else is following.

You Define Your Own Happiness

The few months that I had spent working in an orphanage taught me that happiness is a choice. Their beaming faces showed me that if they can be happy without a proper family and without the many luxuries of life then I too can. It was that turning point in my life when I decided that I will make happiness my choice and not some state that can be only achieved when I achieve a certain criteria in my life. That was the day I redefined happiness for my sake. For me happiness was then about being able to spend a quality time with my parents, getting to work in the field I was passionate about and was able to submit my university assignments in a timely manner. The criteria I had set were according to what I was doing then. Since I have graduated now, happiness for me is having a lot of free time on my hands so I get to focus on my hobbies. The money in my bank account is close to nothing right now but even then I am happy because for me money isn’t a criterion for my happiness. But let us just say that I do get a lot of money in my bank account, then that too will become a source for my happiness but not a source of sadness when it declines again. Putting it in a simpler way, our happiness depends on how grateful we are with what we already have and not what we are yet to have or desire to have.

Though I do agree that sometimes sadness or depressed feelings are inevitable since we are human beings and it is this sadness that helps us to think clearly at times. But your goal should always be to break this circle of depressive thoughts and focus on the blessings you have.

You Also Define Your Own Success

Just like happiness, success should also be defined by you only. The world will tell you that success is when you have a lot of money, when you are famous, or at a high position in your career or someone who is doing a lot in life. But I say that even a housewife who is happily cooking meals for her family, looking after her children and husband and is constantly trying hard to give comfort to others is success. A father, who may not be earning a lot of money, but each day he comes home and does things for his children and wife that brings a smile on their faces is once again success. Or let us take the example of a child who may not be able to do well at school but is a well-mannered child at home is yet again success. So you will never be unsuccessful if you define success for yourself.

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You may be unsuccessful for the world but you can still be happy because it is you who should be defining your criteria for success and happiness. Hence unsuccessful and happiness can exist together.

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Develop Your Personality By Knowing Your Self-Worth

One of the key factors when it comes to developing your personality is to know your self-worth.

What is self-worth?

Sayeda Habib says in her book ‘Life Coaching For Muslims: Discover The Best In You!,’ “Self-worth is a value that is placed on a human life just by virtue of the fact that Allah created it. Self-worth is not about personal sense of entitlement; everyone is exactly equal in this regard.”

So basically, self-worth is to know that no matter what your financial status is, it doesn’t matter what is your skin colour, or to which part of the world you belong to, you are equally important because Allah created you and there is always a purpose in what He creates.

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People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem

Some signs that you know your self-worth:

  • If you come across someone wealthy or with a good professional background you still expect to be respected.
  • Your failures or successes don’t define your worth.
  • You believe in the purpose of your existence.
  • People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem.
  • Even if your self-esteem is negatively affected sometimes, you make sure to work on it.
People’s opinion about you does no harm to your self-esteem
If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be

Some signs that you don’t know your self-worth

  • You let other people demean you.
  • Your opinion about yourself depends on what people think of you.
  • Your failures and successes define your self-worth.
  • People with higher financial or profession status can treat you as they want and you don’t find anything wrong about it.
  • If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be.

Tips to know your self-worth

If your self-esteem becomes low you think that you deserve it and let it be
Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about
  • Understand that you were created by Allah and He created you because you were worthy to be in this world.
  • Think of the time when Muslims are performing pilgrimage, men despite of whatever background they come from they are all wearing two pieces of white unstitched cloth. This is the biggest example that we are all equal in the sight of Allah.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah is all what you need to be worried about.
  • Know that your status and rank in the sight of Allah increases according to the number of good deeds you perform and not according to how much money you earn or how good looking you are.
  • Ponder about your blessings; Allah gave it all to you because He loves you more than your mother.

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Till Then Have Faith In Allah…

Assalam u alaikum readers.

I wasn’t able to do a blog post on Monday and still haven’t been able to write one despite all the ideas being jotted down. I have been a bit busy with cleaning work and de-cluttering my room. This is just something I wrote to motivate my readers for no matter whatever hardship they are going through. Hope you like it. 🙂

I know it is dark out there,

But it won’t be dark forever,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know things are not going right,

But they will have to get better someday,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot find a ray of hope,

But I am sure it is near,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know people can be heartless and evil,

But it is not that good people don’t exist,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you cannot see any sign of your wishes coming true,

But I am sure that behind doors they are already in action,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know achieving your goal is difficult,

But your goal is still possible,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you are having a hard time finding a solution,

But you are surely going to find one,

Till then have faith in Allah.

I know you have had several heartbreaks,

But you are going to find someone who will mend it all,

Till then have faith in Allah.

Just have faith in Allah,

Because victory will be yours!

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The Concept of New Year

Each new year people excitedly celebrate and use it as a way to cover their past grieves and go about thinking that the coming year will bring some magical transformation in their lives. But honestly, new year is just another set of 365 days when we are getting another chance to fulfill the purpose that we were initially sent for in this Dunya.

 

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Originally our Islamic new year begins in Muharram but even then there is nothing to celebrate about it. In fact stepping into the new year means that we are one year closer to our death bed or maybe even on the same year when death is written in our fate.

Having new year resolutions is not wrong but you need to be mindful of your purpose in this Dunya. Have plans that revolve around becoming a better Muslim, doing more Ibad’ah and putting efforts to understand your Deen.

It’s okay if you take your new year as a new beginning but make it a beginning of becoming serious about Aakhirah because you never know when your time will be up.

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2017 In One Word

I am not going to say this year was completely awesome because it wasn’t. I went through a lot of internal conflicts and struggle in some areas of my life. When 2017 began I was excited and hopeful for the surprises that this year awaited. But after a few months I had to deal with my own complexes and it was terribly hard.

As the months passed after being graduated it was difficult to find the job that held my interest. I don’t want to go in the details because I have already written a blog post about – The Struggle of Finding the Right Job. There still aren’t as many opportunities for a psychologist in Pakistan so seeing my friends already settling with well-paid jobs made me quite anxious. Then low self-esteem kicked in which was another thing that I had to deal with. I found a job as a Montessori teacher only to realize that this isn’t for me and that again left me confused and deserted.

I struggled with few friendships by witnessing them as disloyal. I felt being taken advantage of for my sincerity and honesty. I felt like I was the least of their priorities while they meant a lot to me. I also faced difficulty in some of my other relationships and I was demeaned by them in ways I never thought. Then a month passed during which I and my family became a victim of cyber bullying but Alhamdulilah we got help and good response. If you are reading this right now (yes, you the CYBERBULLY!) know that Allah is my protector and whatever defame you were or were not able to bring to me was all by His will and I trust Him for that. J

I also lost my dearest childhood friend who was like an elder sister to me. It is still hard to believe that she is no more. So overall this was a hard year when it came to relationships but Allah had lots of surprises for me as well.

Alhamdulilah I graduated this year with a degree in Psychology and loved every bit of the farewell week at the university and then the convocation ceremony. I got a freelance editor’s job at a publishing company (I once imagined myself working as an editor) and it happened. I initiated the first step towards my dream project. I also recently found a proper job as a rehab practitioner. I finally became an author and my book is to be released on 20th February 2018 Insha Allah.

So if I look at my year 2017, in one word I’d describe it as ambitious. Despite struggling to maintain relationships with people I have had a number of achievements. Alhamdulilah.

So readers, describe your 2017 in one word or in as many as you like. Let me know in the comments below. It can be even as long as my blog post. Or if you are a blogger why not you write your 2017 experience on your blog and tag me there and make it some sort of a blog loop.

I will be eagerly waiting for your response.

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Read more about my 2017 experience on my TBN blog; coming up soon!

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The Ultimate Signature

As a writer, each time I write something thought provoking I have a knack of signing underneath it claiming it as my piece. Each time I upload a picture of an inspiring sentence I have written on Facebook or Instagram, I make sure I watermark it with my name. Moving on to anyone else I am sure you too would have loved to mark your possessions with your name or signature.

Another example is that of the artist, designers, architects, who makes sure that their works are recognized by their names. They have a certain style of construct that they use when creating art. It is human nature. We love to be appreciated. We love when people talk ‘look at that extravagant piece made by so and so,’ and we love to get attention from people for our work. We are fascinated by fame and we feel delighted.

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But these buildings, malls, parks, paintings and sculptures are all made by human beings hence it is easier to know who is behind these beauties. But look around and observe the nature. Do you find a signature therein? Can you recognize the creator of such picturesque scenarios? Do you ever stop to wonder how are they functioning on their own? Perhaps we can take the example of an automatic machine which starts working on its own with a single touch of a button and stops working when someone switches it off. Despite the fact that it operates on its own it still requires an intervention to know when to begin and when to stop. Even the most high-tech automated machines need some form of stimuli to begin their process and end it. So is the case with nature.

Also, the machine never came into existence on its own, it required to be manufactured and not just by anyone but an expert in the field of machines. So my point is, if that single machine can’t create itself then how can nature and this whole universe come into existence on its own without an expert creator. How can we miss the ultimate signature?

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